About
Hi. We’re Jean and Jen, and we built this because we could not find anyone decent to help us with perimenopause.
We have been friends since we were kids. We live about ten minutes apart outside Philadelphia, and a couple of years ago we both started feeling like someone had quietly swapped out our bodies overnight. Jean is 42 and works in software. Jen is 43 and is a nurse practitioner. Between us we had a clinician’s vocabulary, decent research skills and a lot of free evenings, and it was still genuinely hard to find good care.
That bothered us. If it was that hard for the two of us, what was it like for everyone who does not happen to have a nurse on speed dial.
Why this is so hard right now
Menopause care is all over the place. The guidance on hormone therapy has changed a lot in the last few years, and not everyone has caught up, so one clinician will tell you something another flatly contradicts. Some practices are wonderful. Some will tell a woman in her early forties that she is too young for this to be happening. And almost none of them put anything useful on their website, which means you cannot tell which is which until you have paid for the appointment.
So you end up asking around. Which, honestly, works. Every good recommendation we ever got came from another woman who had already been through it.
Where the listings come from
So that is what we built. Most of what is here started with somebody telling us about someone. Referrals from the Facebook groups we are in, people we have met at events, friends of friends, women who emailed us out of nowhere to say that their doctor finally listened. The rest comes from us digging around every corner of the internet we can think of.
Then we sit down and actually make the listing. We read the practice’s own website and write down what it really says rather than what we assume or what sounds right. If they publish their prices, we show them. If they do not, we say so instead of guessing. Every profile carries the date we last checked, so you can see how fresh it is.
We also leave people out, which feels strange for a directory to admit. A listing you cannot act on just wastes your afternoon, so if there is no way to become a patient, or no sign the clinician treats menopause at all, it does not go in. There are 5,250 practitioners listed in all fifty states so far, and we are still working through them one at a time.
Who is actually doing this
The two of us, plus a handful of friends and volunteers who chip in when they have a free evening. That is the whole operation. It is slower than we would like and we are fine with that, because the alternative is putting up names we have not looked at.
What we want this to be
The first place you look. Not a pile of names, but somewhere you can actually tell who treats menopause, who is taking new patients, how you would pay and roughly what it costs, before you spend a morning on the phone finding out. This stuff is too new and too inconsistent for women to be figuring it out one at a time, alone, from scratch.
What this is not
We do not give medical advice and we have no opinion on what treatment is right for you. That conversation belongs with a clinician who knows your history. All we are trying to do is get you into that room sooner, with a shorter list and better questions.
If you know someone good
Tell us. That is how most of this got here. Write to us at jean@mymenomatch.com, and if you are a practitioner who would like a listing changed or taken down, the same address reaches us.